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Inner Family Letter (As presented at recovery workshop, October 2023)

Hi To All of My Inner Family Members

Today I want to take this opportunity to introduce you to a new family member and that is Our Loving Parent. Our Loving Parent is here to listen to all of you. She wants to validate all of your thoughts, feeling and emotions. She is offering each and every one of you her unconditional love, compassion and emotional support at all times. She will never abandon you or neglect you. She is here to protect you and to show you what compassion and caring and kindness looks like. She will never judge you or criticize you or belittle you. She has a heart full of love and respect for all of you. She wants you to know she will listen to all your concerns. She will help you work through difficult emotions that may come up for you. She will be a part of our inner family system for the rest of our lives.

She wants you to know that she is not a mind reader. She will encourage you to use your voice so she can support you and help you. Remember she is there for all of you. Our Loving Parent is there to listen and validate each and every one of you.

A special word to The Critical Parent from The Loving Parent. The Loving Parent wants you to know that she respects you and appreciates you. She knows that ultimately you have always wanted what was best for us. You motivated us to do the next right thing. But sometimes your words and actions were harsh, degrading, scary, and loud. The Loving Parent wants to help guide you to tone down your voice and to talk in a kinder, gentler, soft way when you are speaking to any of the Inner Family Members.

The Loving Parent believes we can all learn to accept and care for each other. We can create he best version of our True Self. WE can learn to live a more balanced inner life and external life. We can all begin to experience true happiness, inner peace and joy.

I hope each and every one of The Inner Family Members take time to get to know our Inner Loving Parent and trust she is there to support us at all times.

The ultimate goal is to become the best version of our True Self and to live the rest of our life happy, joyous and free.


Written with Love from My True Self

My Loving Parent (Jacqueline)


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